On Being Non-Social

I am not anti-social… I am non-social.

DSCF7224

Here’s an example:: say there was going to be a small garden party at our house.  I would probably be around – I would be there to eat, and maybe a bit more.  I might rather it not happen… but it could be fun for a while. 

So I am not anti-social.  I just have no intention of planning for any such event.  And I can not socialize long before wanting to learn more about someone, and I must not do that.  Like… if I found someone liked photography, then I might think about a photo trip.  But I don’t want to think of that.

So I can wonder off into my office, or my shop… I can reappear when I feel I can.

Is it lonely?  You bet.  But ya gotta take the bad with the good.

And it is not like there is a lack of things for me to have fun with around here – I have a wood shop and metal shop (small), plus my office.  I should be putting my energies into my hobbies… and stuff for Lori!   Smile

AND… I have had this wonderful feeling… as if a great weight had been removed from my shoulders.  I have actually been feeling good!  There will be lots of ups and downs, but aren’t there always??

PS… this Blog was posted accidentally early.

PPS… the photo is at Butchard Garden near Victoria, BC, Canada

4 thoughts on “On Being Non-Social”

  1. I’m pretty much the same. I’ll go (if it’s a small crowd) make an appearance and leave as quickly as I can. It sucks because usually I know I want to be there, but I can’t convince my mind of that.

    Like

    Reply

  2. That is a beautiful garden, if there was somewhere near me like that, I might go for a walk more often.

    Your post today reminded me of a video I watched recently. I say watched, but it was only audio, so really, I listened to it. There is this guy called Stefan Molyneux who rants about philosophy and other subjects, his main gripe seems to be bad parenting though. People call into his show, and he tries to help them. A caller had a problem with socializing, he thought he had social anxiety disorder. But it turns out he really had ‘Asshole Proximity Disorder’

    It got me thinking about my own ‘social anxiety’ in a different way because I’m not socially anxious with all people, only people I feel I can’t be myself with, that tends to be a lot of average or normal people because most people just can’t relate to my honest perspectives about things and the kind of life I have lived, so….. I have to fake it, which is very unpleasant. Superficial small talk, to me is like being forced to watch grass grow while continuing a running commentary about its progress.

    I guess I should include a link to the video I mentioned, even though I’ve got a feeling it wont be welcome. Just a warning for anyone who may be interested, he’s pretty intense. Its a 3 hour video, but the first caller is the one I was talking about:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HpB4bXlz2m8

    Like

    Reply

Leave a comment